TheJourneyisBetter,Together.

A real, honest reflection on what it means to feel like you don’t quite measure up—and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed. I’m Not a Medium is about letting go of who you think you’re supposed to be, owning who you actually are, and finding peace, growth, and purpose in that truth. If you’ve ever felt behind, stuck, or not enough, this is a reminder that your story isn’t over—and you’re more than what you’re not.

A quiet conversation about the cross turned into a heartfelt reminder for pastors stepping into Holy Week: this isn’t about saying something new, it’s about faithfully telling the story that still changes everything. A gentle, grace-filled encouragement to lead without pressure, preach without performance, and trust that the Gospel is already enough.

A quiet moment in the car with my son reminded me how little I actually know—and how freeing that can be. This is a reflection on letting go of the need to have all the answers and learning to simply be present in what’s right in front of you.

Ten years ago I pulled into the parking lot of a county social work office to meet two little boys who didn’t know me and didn’t know what their future would hold. What began as a temporary step of faith slowly became forever. In this deeply personal reflection, I look back on the journey our family has walked—through loss, healing, unexpected turns, and incredible grace—and how becoming a dad reshaped my life, my faith, and my understanding of God as our Father. Sometimes the road is harder than we ever imagined, but looking back reminds us of a powerful truth: you can’t wish away the journey if you’re thankful for the destination.

Two weekends. One full of tension, the other full of worship. In the middle of it all came a question I can’t shake: when did Christians become afraid of letting God be God? This reflection wrestles with our tendency to sprinkle expectations onto the free gift of grace and invites us back to the simple, freeing truth of a Father who loves broken people exactly as they are.

I’m not here to give you answers for a life I haven’t lived. I’m here to sit with you long enough for another page to feel possible.

We aren’t simple. We aren’t one-dimensional. This blog is a reminder that your contradictions, your questions, your emotions, and your wonder aren’t flaws—they’re part of the beautiful complexity your Creator designed.

When Charlie Kirk’s death hit the news, I didn’t expect it to shake me—but it did. Not because of politics, but because I saw myself in his searching, flawed, and very human journey.

In the wake of another school shooting, I found myself asking the same haunting question: “When will it stop?” This post is my honest wrestling with grief, trauma, faith, and the God who weeps with us. It’s not about easy answers—it’s about holding on to hope in the middle of heartbreak.